A Tribute to abra a collection of her comments

[hrossa]

"Sarcasm: the last refuge of modest and chaste-souled people when the privacy of their soul is coarsely and intrusively invaded. "
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky

pootie49
March 26, 2009, 2:59 pm
modest and chaste-like, sounds just like me
QuexUl
December 2, 2014, 2:23 pm
Now THAT sarcasm I got, and in less than 285 seconds.
abra
April 4, 2015, 9:26 am
I didn't, my kitchen timer went off, by the time I was through, it took me 331 seconds.
LLapp
June 13, 2018, 4:23 pm
Whoa, you use a kitchen timer for these things?
celticbum
September 5, 2018, 5:46 am
You still use a kitchen timer?
abra
July 7, 2021, 1:40 am
Pretty sure that my kitchen timer went off and I had to attend to whatever. I let the Baron time me.
gracefulghost
October 4, 2021, 2:03 pm
You still use a kitchen?
Sleepyshirley
September 7, 2023, 1:25 am
Ha!

[LLapp]

So, abra does seem to be a time traveler somehow. first the premonitory comment about glassguy, (Or did he have the record time for the quote?) and then an early stop to a comment, knowing (?) sh'ed be there 2 minutes later to finish the comment?!

I think glassguy must have had the record when abra first commented. Her 1/5/21 return a few minutes later was on purpose, after she (I assume) hit the "Submit" button by accident. There's a comment thread somewhere where abra first figured out how to come back and post a second comment. The return comment said something like, "I just want to try something here...".

[kb83]

So, abra does seem to be a time traveler somehow. first the premonitory comment about glassguy, (Or did he have the record time for the quote?) and then an early stop to a comment, knowing (?) sh'ed be there 2 minutes later to finish the comment?!

[LLapp]

"Managing is getting paid for home runs someone else hits." — Casey Stengel

skeeter
August 24, 2015, 1:53 pm
I miss the mid-1970s, watching Carl Yastrzemski play at Fenway Park for the Sox. That was back when you could just walk up to the dugout and get an autograph (which I did). I miss the Green Monster and the "Big Beers."

darkyr
December 28, 2016, 5:28 am
Do I have to watch the game?

abra
July 23, 2018, 6:19 pm
Go, Cubbies.

Eureka
March 11, 2019, 2:19 pm
No you don't, darkyr.

Wordigo
August 13, 2020, 2:40 pm
I rather play than manage.

abra
January 5, 2021, 9:12 pm
My dad was a really, really die hard Cub fan. He was so upset by friends that became White Sox fans that he became a Yankee fan too. He and a friend ordered tickets for Yankee/Sox games every spring. Skeeter at one game he just stood by the door to the visitor's locker room and got his program signed by Micky Mantle, Yogi, Whitey Ford and others. He gave it to my older sister. Don't know whatever happened to it. I did ask him once what if the Cubs and Yankees were in the World Series. I could tell that question irritated him. ''I am first and foremost a Cub fan''. I used to root for the Yankees when the Cubs were eliminated, but my

abra
January 5, 2021, 9:14 pm
...husband and son are Yankee haters. I gradually forgot about them.

[LLapp]

Abra and others, on being married to your best friend...
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"All love that has not friendship for its base, is like a mansion built upon the sand." — Ella Wheeler Wilcox

montyb
July 13, 2012, 1:44 pm
Expensive, beautifully scenic, and difficult to maintain.

SippyGirl
September 9, 2013, 6:53 pm
a billion years ago, when i was young, a model, of all people, was one of the first to tell me that her man - perhaps her husband? - was her best friend... that it was silly and even insulting to introduce him as anything but. it made a tremendous impression on me at the time

wordfairy
March 6, 2015, 12:18 am
Sweet, SippyGirl. Thanks much for sharing.

abra
July 3, 2015, 2:23 pm
It's kind of a cliche these days to say that you're married to your best friend. I've known my husband since I was 15. We were not high school sweethearts. We were really good friends. We knew each other for years before it became romantic. I am married to my best friend.

skeeter
October 23, 2015, 3:42 pm
Been with my husband since we were 16 years old, 48 years ago this week.

marnita
July 31, 2016, 3:02 am
Congratulations, Skeeter - that's inspiring.

cherylab1963
October 15, 2016, 1:06 am
My parents were married for 61 years when my Mom died. They were still each other's best friends. Marriages can work AND be healthy, but it takes two healthy (I don't mean physically) people who decide that giving up isn't an option. And don't say 'what about abuse or infidelity'. Hence the healthy part.

oddcouple
July 2, 2017, 5:08 pm
:Like others, I married a woman who was my friend first for about three years before I asked her to marry me. That's going on 37 years now.

GramBow
October 18, 2017, 2:12 pm
Matthew 7:26 - 27 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.

LLapp
July 15, 2018, 4:42 pm
Well I had a crush on my guy for about 10 years before we finally had conversations for longer than a minute or two . . . and I was so delighted to find that there was a friendship in there that I was sensing all that time.

abra
June 14, 2019, 11:15 pm
We celebrated 51 years, 3 weeks ago. As Cheryl said, we took ''divorce'' out of our vocabulary. Things aren't always perfect, but having the underlying friendship keeps things from getting too angry. It keeps you from giving up and walking away. I agree with the quote.

Synonymous
May 6, 2022, 1:22 pm
Nice comment thread, refreshing. Bio has been corrected.

dmford60
January 1, 2023, 1:13 pm
My man and I have been a couple for 31 years, but only lived together for the first five; after that we realized we'd do better living apart. And he is still my best friend.

montyb
January 8, 2023, 2:44 pm
I met my best friend 45 years ago this month, not long after the blizzard of '78.

[LLapp]

I take this as a thank-you for future comments...


"There is no bullet-proof vest in my size." — Ariel Sharon

abra
October 1, 2018, 12:41 pm
This took me forever. Then all of sudden I saw ''bullet-proof''. glassguy, I declare you a genius.

glassguy
March 9, 2021, 6:48 pm
Not sure what I did, Abra, but thanks.

darkyr
April 5, 2021, 2:31 pm
Isn't it obvious. You left a comment after her, which assured her that she would, indeed, solve the quote, giving her that much needed encouragement from the future we all long to get.

abra
April 28, 2021, 8:04 pm
I think he probably held the record then with a score that was way better than my own. Or maybe it was that comment from the future thing. That's always worth a thank you.

[Synonymous]

Abra's sense of humor shines through...
"Time invested in improving ourselves cuts down on time wasted in disapproving of others. "
— Unattributed
universalmom
June 18, 2015, 10:20 am
Hahaha...disapproving of otters!
Persephone59
May 27, 2017, 2:43 am
Shameful little frolicking water creatures!
darkyr
August 6, 2019, 6:29 pm
Shameful? Or shameless?
LLapp
October 29, 2019, 3:01 am
No time with otters is wasted time.
abra
May 6, 2020, 2:25 am
It's otterly well spent. I used to love to see them watch them at the zoo. They knew how to spend time having fun.
montyb
December 22, 2022, 4:14 pm
This “advice” seems hardly a fair trade.

[Eureka]

"You will always be your child's favorite toy." — Vicki Lansky

abra
August 26, 2017, 6:41 pm
I'm not sure about "toy" but I know I'm a sounding board, a special friend, the most confidant of confidants. It's all good. :O)

[hrossa]

It's pure abra!

[Eureka]

Thank you, hrossa! I am SO glad to see that abra got back to that quote to see our comments.

[Synonymous]

Thank you hrossa for posting this comment thread. It is SOOOO very nice to see how wrong abra was. It's a real tribute to a very nice lady who touched so many hearts here on this site for so many years. A lot of us miss abra whether we agreed with her or not, she was still a "true lady" all the time.

[LLapp]

Oh, hrossa, thank you for posting that one!

For abra's son, next time you come back here: ^^That thread was the one I meant when I said that your mom mentioned once how she would likely be remembered by just her family and a few close friends. I'm glad she got to see our responses.

[hrossa]

"There are some people who leave impressions not so lasting as the imprint of an oar upon the water." — Kate Chopin

puzzleme
July 6, 2013, 1:32 am
That is really very sad.

jnoodles
August 17, 2013, 12:14 am
These are the people we cannot do without.

abra
December 29, 2015, 2:01 pm
I'm pretty sure that aside from a my family, and a few others, I'm one of those. It's not so bad.

MamaB
December 21, 2016, 3:41 am
I bet you leave a pretty positive impression on those few folks.

LLapp
September 5, 2018, 6:12 pm
Too late, abra. You've left a fine lasting impression on the players here.

Eureka
December 7, 2019, 3:16 pm
I was about to say that, LLapp! It wouldn't be the same here without you, abra.

abra
January 23, 2020, 8:50 pm
Oh, wow, that is so nice of you all to say. Honestly I wasn't fishing.

[Synonymous]

Wonderful. This site is amazing in its longevity and warmth for each other. Feels like a family.

[LLapp]

"If anything characterizes the cultural life of the seventies in America, it is an insistence on preventing failures of communication." — Richard D. Rosen

wobray2
June 15, 2014, 9:56 pm
Well, yeah -- everybody had seen "Cool Hand Luke" by then

montyb
August 5, 2014, 7:35 am
The sweatiest movie ever made according to the gang at Cheers.

wvwoman
August 9, 2015, 10:01 am
i've never seen it.

LLapp
December 29, 2015, 1:14 pm
I saw it and did not get what was so great about it. I think it is truly a man's movie, and I'm not a man. I guess it is about how men relate to each other, in the context of a guarded brotherhood under unfair authority and in the absence of women. Yeah, I guess it's about the kinship and social structure of being male. I've noticed guys love that movie; I did not, even though I love Paul Newman.

debzhaus
April 13, 2016, 10:16 am
I liked it a lot.

badbob
August 3, 2016, 9:48 am
The actor who said "failure to communicate" was Strother Martin who was Paul Newman'best friend . .also appeared in Slap Shot and Butch Cassidy all guy movies.

abra
October 19, 2016, 5:55 pm
I saw a comment today by badbob, where he said he'd never made it back to see the replies to one of his comments. In case you make it back here, badbob, I want to make sure there's a reply. I did like the Cool Hand Luke the first time. Not so much the second and third, pretty much the same thing with Butch Cassidy.

puzzleme
February 16, 2017, 3:05 pm
I enjoyed both Cool and Butch; never saw Slap. Paul Newman was the best... not the best looking (Eek! Sacrilege!)... but one of the best actors ever. Made it look just so easy. Damn.

Eureka
November 4, 2018, 4:27 pm
Butch Cassidy was a fun movie.

Elephino
December 12, 2018, 9:50 am
I quite like Cool Hand Luke and Butch Cassidy, etc. but I think that if anything characterizes the cultural life of the seventies in America it would be these: bellbottoms, bra-burning, big afros, and bushy mustaches... and stripes and velour

badbob
February 18, 2019, 2:20 am
disco

Fudi
July 13, 2019, 11:16 pm
I miss velour. It's so nice and soft. Why did society reject it? What's wrong with us?

Eureka
July 18, 2019, 4:13 pm
We're a fickle bunch, Fudi.

abra
September 21, 2020, 2:47 am
I like velour.

abra
November 10, 2022, 2:32 am
One of the first Christmases when my son was married, my daughter-in-law gave my husband a copy of Cool Hand Luke. Which he does like and she must have been paying attention, during some conversation.

badbob
June 10, 2023, 7:40 am
the late great Abra left a reply to my comment. I am truly honored she will always be missed